Wednesday, August 4, 2010

THE 5 STEPS TO OVERCOMING HEARTBREAK





SO HE BROKE YOUR HEART AND LATELY YOU FIND YOURSELF CRYING OVER HIM AND FEELING ANGRY FOR WHAT HE DID TO YOU. YOU FEEL BETRAYED, CRUSHED, AND ON THE BRINK OF INSANITY. WILL IT GET BETTER? COULD YOU EVER MUSTER UP ENOUGH COURAGE TO BECOME STRONG AND MOVE ON? WELL I'M TELLING YOU THAT YOU CAN; YOU CAN AND YOU WILL, HEAL AND MOVE ON. YOU WILL NEVER FORGET BUT IN TIME, THOSE MEMORIES WILL HAVE NO  POWER OVER YOU. YOU WILL RECALL THAT TIME IN YOUR LIFE AND LAUGH ABOUT IT. YOU WILL LEARN FROM IT AND GROW FROM IT. WHAT MOST PEOPLE WHO HAD THEIR HEARTBROKEN FAIL TO UNDERSTAND IS THAT EVERYTHING PASSES. EVEN THE MOST TRAGIC MOMENTS OF OUR LIVES WILL FADE IN TIME. LIFE IS FULL OF DISAPPOINTMENTS... FRIENDS WHO COME AND GO, SITUATIONS THAT ALWAYS CHANGE, AND LOVE THAT BEGINS AND ENDS... ITS DIFFICULT TO DEAL WITH SOMETIMES, TRUST ME I KNOW; I'VE HAD MY HEARTBROKEN TOO AND IT WAS A VERY DIFFICULT PROCESS FOR ME AS WELL SO FOR YOU I'VE COMPILED A LIST OF THINGS FOR YOU TO DO THAT WILL HELP YOU OVERCOME THIS SETBACK IN YOUR LIFE BECAUSE THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT IT IS; A SETBACK; A LIFE SITUATION AND NOT THE END OF YOUR LIFE FOR THERE WAS LIFE BEFORE YOUR HEARTBREAK AND SURELY THERE WILL BE LIFE AFTER.............



STEP 1:   DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF!!!!!!

THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. YOU MAY FEEL THAT SOMETHING WAS WRONG WITH YOU FOR HIM TO CHEAT ON YOU. YOU MAY BEGIN TO QUESTION WHETHER YOU WERE PRETTY OR BEAUTIFUL ENOUGH. WHETHER YOU WERE MISSING SOMETHING THAT THOSE OTHER GIRLS MAY HAVE HAD. THIS IS THE POINT WHERE YOU'RE SELF ESTEEM DROPS AND YOU FEEL LESS OF A PERSON OR MORE SO THAT YOU'RE INCAPABLE OF BEING LOVED. STOP RIGHT THERE!!! BEFORE YOU GO OFF MAKING JUDGEMENTS ABOUT YOURSELF AND PLACING THE BLAME SOLELY ON YOURSELF, ACKNOWLEDGE THE GOOD YOU BROUGHT TO THE RELATIONSHIP EVEN IF YOU POSSESSED FLAWS. UNDERSTAND THAT YOU GAVE YOUR BEST. REMEMBER YOU ARE ONLY HUMAN . DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP.. AS A MATTER OF FACT, LOOK INTO THE MIRROR AND TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL PERSON WITH A GOOD HEART AND THAT DESPITE THIS HURTFUL EXPERIENCE , YOU WILL TAKE SOMETHING FROM IT AND BECOME A BETTER YOU WHICH LEADS US TO OUR SECOND STEP


STEP 2: GAIN WISDOM

THERE IS ALWAYS A LESSON TO LEARN.. TAKE FROM THIS SITUATION A LESSON TO MAKE YOU A BETTER PERSON. MAYBE THE INTUITION WAS ALWAYS THERE BUT YOU IGNORED IT. MAYBE THE LESSON IS TO TRUST YOUR "INNER FEELING" THE NEXT TIME YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP. MAYBE THE LESSON WAS THAT THIS PERSON WASN'T MEANT FOR YOU. IT COULD BE A HOST OF THINGS. THE KEY HERE IS TO BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF. YOU HAVE TO BE AWARE OF WHAT NEEDS TO BE WORKED ON OR ELSE THE SAME PATTERN MAY OCCUR WHEN YOU GET INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP.


STEP 3: REBUILD

NOW IS THE TIME TO GATHER UP ALL YOUR WEAKNESSES AND EVERYTHING THAT YOU'VE LEARNED AND REBUILD.. MAKE IT FUN.. IT CAN BE EXERCISING TO  CRETE A NEW FIGURE, TRYING A NEW HAIRSTYLE OR WARDROBE, ETC. THE REBUILDING PROCESS IS FOR YOU CREATE A NEW "YOU" IT SYMBOLIZES A NEW BEGINNING, A NEW STAGE IN YOUR LIFE TO START FRESH AND INVITE NEW PEOPLE, EXPERIENCES, AND ADVENTURES INTO YOUR LIFE


STEP 4: CHANGE YOUR PHILOSOPHY

YOU PROBABLY CREATED A MINDSET THAT DWELLS ON A LOT OF NEGATIVITY... ITS A LOT OF ANGER WITHIN YOU AND GREAT PESSIMISM. YOU'RE PROBABLY SAYING FORGET LOVE AND EVERYTHING THAT COMES WITH IT. YOU MOST LIKELY BELIEVE THAT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME AND YOU'VE PLACE THESE DIFFICULT BARRIERS UP. WELL THIS MENTALITY WONT HAVE YOU FINDING LOVE NO TIME SOON NOR HAVE MEN WANTING TO BE AROUND YOU. IF YOU CONTINUE TO PLAY THE VICTIM, ITS GOING TO PUSH GUYS WHO COULD POSSIBLY BE RIGHT FOR YOU AWAY.. THEY'RE GOING TO ALWAYS FEEL THAT YOU SOMEHOW PLACED THEM INTO A CATEGORY OF SOMEONE WHO WILL EVENTUALLY MESS UP LIKE THE LAST GUY. THE KEY HERE IS TO ASSIGN RESPONSIBILITY TO THE ONE WHO DID WRONG, NOT EVERY OTHER GUY. I KNOW ITS DIFFICULT BUT YOU CANT WEAR YOUR HURT ON YOUR SLEEVE. YOU HAVE TO BE POSITIVE IN ORDER TO INVITE POSITIVE SITUATIONS OR PEOPLE INTO YOUR LIFE.THIS IS THE LAW OF ATTRACTION... YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE AND SEE YOURSELF BEING WITH THIS WONDERFUL PERSON AND BEING IN A POSITIVE AND HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIP.


STEP 5: HAVE FUN &ENJOY LIFE; BE CONTENT WITH YOUR SITUATION

NO ONE WANTS TO BE HURT AND ALONE; BUT WHILE YOU SPEND YOUR NIGHTS SOBBING INTO THE PILLOW, THE WORLD IS STILL GOING.. YOU CAN NOT STOP LIVING FOR A PERSON WHO WONT STOP LIVING FOR YOU. TO BE CONTENT WITH YOUR SITUATION IS TO ACCEPT IT FOR WHAT IT IS; A SITUATION. THIS IS THE PERFECT TIME TO KEEP YOURSELF BUSY.. START A NEW HOBBY.. MEET NEW FRIENDS.. TRAVEL AND JUST DO NEW AND EXCITING THINGS THAT YOU'VE NEVER TRIED.. WHILE BEING SINGLE SUCKS SOMETIMES, THIS IS THE PERFECT OPPORTUNITY TO DISCOVER THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF YOU NEVER KNEW.. AFTER ALL, THIS IS THE PERFECT TIME FOR YOU TO TREAT LIFE LIKE AN ADVENTURE 




1 comment:

Samira said...

like i just told you, you are something like an angel. your list will become more than just a list to many women. i'm so happy that you care. how could anyone give up on guys when they know you? never stop what you're doing. never stop beeing you, cause u truly are something like an angel..